​Over the last two decades or so the same statement has been plaguing the United States: "There aren't any good men left."  Yes, I called it a statement, but in fact what it really is, is a lie. It is a lie that has gotten way out of hand. I do believe that there are good men out there. I refuse to believe that God would ordain marriage between man and woman, but then not let a good man be available to one of His daughters. Let's talk about it!



First of all I want to know where that lie came from. Who started that? Personally, yet I will stand corrected if need be, I think it’s a lie from the pit of hell. The sad part is that too many women have accepted that statement and believe that it is what it is. That’s a huge problem because whatever you accept as is, that’s all you’ll ever get. To quote my former supervisor once again, “If you believe it is what it is then you deserve it.” By women accepting that lie as a truth, it causes their minds to now be more tolerant of BS from men they date. You will adjust your lifestyle according to what your mind believes to be true. Have you noticed that the more that lie has been edified over the years, the number of women who tolerate not being the only one increased? Women have been more competitive over the same guy which, frankly ladies, is just stupid. When a man wants you, you will not have to compete for him. That doesn’t mean you don’t need to show yourself approved by being the queen that you are, but you will never have to consciously challenge other women for his heart. Men are natural born hunters and go-getters; therefore, it is up to them to pursue and conquer. It’s not the other way around. Thanks to this lie, women now have gone in to a “survival of the fittest” mode and a lot of good men now don’t have the requirement to be a good man, cause well….now he can have his cake and eat it too!

I’m not excusing man’s behavior; not by a long shot! What I am saying is that we as women are encouraging men not to step up to the plate and be a good man when we go along with all kinds of foolishness. All women who say and go along with the following are MAJOR contributors to the problem: “I’m cool with not being in a relationship; I just want someone to sleep with when I’m in the mood.” “I don’t care if he has other women as long as I’m #1 and I get that money.” “A man is going to be a man. All men cheat, so as long as he comes home to me at night I’m cool.” FOOLISHNESS! Women who go along with that kind of nonsense make it very easy for a man to not want to do right by women. If he can have his cake and ice cream, he is less anxious to do right by one woman. However, women who go along with that do make it a lot easier for us good women to be recognized; typically because a REAL MAN is never going to take a woman who goes along with the above foolishness seriously. Those are the kind of women they have “fun” with, but don’t give a honorable title to. Those women will never be “wifed” by a real man until their mindset changes. Yeah…that probably pissed a lot of women off (those who go along with those things mentioned) but you need to hear it. If you are “cool” with those things you have NOT tapped into the full understanding of how valuable you are. Why else would any woman tolerate such foolery?

So why did I say I believe it’s a lie from the pit of hell? Simply put: The acceptance of the lie weakens women’s standards; which we see go on daily. Once the standards have been weakened, some men take full advantage of that. After the standards have been lowered comes casual dating, casual sex and a whole lot of damaged women in the process. Being in an exclusive relationship seems to be “out of style” now, so marriage certainly isn’t in the picture. The collateral damage is a whole lot of single parent household and un-fathered children. In other words, the foundation of family is destroyed. That is a goal of the enemy; to destroy the family unit. Of course men who have not been fathered or have a positive male mentor in his life adds to the equation of why some men are not playing their position, but that still goes back to the destruction of the family unit. Now it has become a cycle. Now girls don’t see a real man in the household, so they accept BS from guys because it appears to be the norm. Boys don’t see a real man in the household so many of them are thinking having 10 different women makes them a man. No, sir that makes you a pawn in a game that you don’t even know you’re being played in.

So, ladies, there are PLENTY of good men out there! You need to tap into your inner wealth and up your standards…or get some if you don’t have any. Several good men will walk by you and not recognize you when you’re not walking in the fullness of who you really are. Men know when a woman values herself. Once a guy finds out he can walk all over you, it’s a wrap! Lots of women walk by good men everyday because he doesn’t look like what they saw on TV; honey that’s TV! Don’t let Hollywood mess up your mind and have you sitting around by yourself for the rest of your life. Oh, and the media (be it television or music) be careful with that. A lot of these song lyrics and media content have people’s minds messed up. Filter what you allow to go into your ear canal. Recognize there are “plots” or “conspiracies” in the airwaves. Don’t settle for nonsense. If he doesn’t want to make you his only one; get up, get out and keep it moving. Don’t try to fight him on that and compete with other girls; that’s crazy. Let them all be crazy together while you go get yourself together. Stop telling yourself and allowing other people to tell you that there aren’t any good men left. If you ignore all those lies you might be surprised at what (or who rather) you run into in a few weeks!



~Miss Jennipher~

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